Best first date idea

[doublea114]

OK. What is the best first date? What are things that a guy should and shouldn't do on one? What would you do and where would you go on a first date?

For those who say, depends on the guy or gurl, he's cute and funny. She is good looking and a bit of an idiot. lol. Play around with that.

[GoddessDivine]

if the girl is an idiot the best thing to do is run, far far away. if the guy is an idiot look forward to being felt up or at least given lame lines to get you to sleep with him.
Personally i think dating is out. i haven't been on a "date" in years. i just hangout with my guy and we play video games or go eat or something. also i dont know what the kids today think is fun to do.

[doublea114]

um you pretty much hit it divine. being a teen, i enjoy anything that is sports wise and video games are a big one. thats too bad you dont date. oh well eh, just not your thing

[GoddessDivine]

i'm too old for that crap
i would rather sit at home and play video games, or drinking games or just watch a movie with the person i am seeing, which is pretty much what i do right now with Mr. X

[Sytrohs87]

Originally Said by GoddessDivine

if the girl is an idiot the best thing to do is run, far far away. if the guy is an idiot look forward to being felt up or at least given lame lines to get you to sleep with him.
Personally i think dating is out. i haven't been on a "date" in years. i just hangout with my guy and we play video games or go eat or something. also i dont know what the kids today think is fun to do.

hm.. *nods* I feel that what most people consider dating is best left for yuppies and people who feel like they need to have their minds distracted by other things in order to convince themselves there's some kind of connection. If you want to get to know someone, talk to them.. you can usually tell if there's a connection in as little as ten minutes. It seems to me that a lot of times people don't realize that if they need to occupy themselves with something else while on a date, it usually isn't worth their time. What matters is that you can have a good time with someone no matter what you're doing.

But that's just been my experience.. although I might have no idea what I'm talking about.. I've had too much caffeine to really concentrate that well... so who knows.

[doublea114]

hm.. *nods* I feel that what most people consider dating is best left for yuppies and people who feel like they need to have their minds distracted by other things in order to convince themselves there's some kind of connection. If you want to get to know someone, talk to them.. you can usually tell if there's a connection in as little as ten minutes. It seems to me that a lot of times people don't realize that if they need to occupy themselves with something else while on a date, it usually isn't worth their time. What matters is that you can have a good time with someone no matter what you're doing.

But that's just been my experience.. although I might have no idea what I'm talking about.. I've had too much caffeine to really concentrate that well... so who knows.

I agree to that completely. there is nothing in there that I dont agree with. what i meant by first date is when you and your bf or who ever your seeing are going out together for the first time, finally going public with your relationship i guess.

I'm sorry, Im still blown away with what you said, thats the first time I have ever heard, or read anyone say something like that cuz i agree with it. thats exactly how I feel, but high school relation is shallowed out though. it pathetic. if he's not good looking, why bother? me i go after smarts and love. if you aint got love, dont think of me ever again lol. sorry if that sounds harsh but remember, im pure evil lol.

[GoddessDivine]

love is becoming phased out. your lucky if you can find it

[Thoughtcrime]

There's no "format" for a first date.

My girlfriend and I had been friends from work, but we'd always flirted and I guess had a little bit of a "spark." I quit working there and we didn't talk for months, then I got her number from a mutual friend and we started texting. And text flirting. A lot.

So I surprised her at work and asked if she wanted to go see a movie or something when she got off. We went to McDonald's and then the movies. I asked if she wanted to go out again. We did. We've been "going out" for two months now. The other day she introduced me to someone as her boyfriend.

I don't know if that longish personal story answered any of your questions, probably not. Lul.

[psychoDiablo]

actually you would think of the guy running from her if she's an idiot. I dont know how long I could put up with her...but typical male isn't going to care that she's an idiot. it just means easy game.

dont take her anywhere. take her ass to Burger King and buy her a "love-shake." she wont know the difference.
then take her to a spot around the city, dont take her to your house, and get your mack on. then take her ass home and tell her you will call her soon. which you wont.

[Sytrohs87]

Originally Said by psychoDiablo

actually you would think of the guy running from her if she's an idiot. I dont know how long I could put up with her...but typical male isn't going to care that she's an idiot. it just means easy game.

dont take her anywhere. take her ass to Burger King and buy her a "love-shake." she wont know the difference.
then take her to a spot around the city, dont take her to your house, and get your mack on. then take her ass home and tell her you will call her soon. which you wont.

You know, there are those of us out here who're guided more by our minds than our dicks.. but you wouldn't know what that's like, would you?

Though I have to say that you're probably getting way more pussy than I am, so gung-ho, desperate-girl fucker! If your wake up one day wondering where your self-respect went, that intelligent chick who engages you mentally, challenges your beliefs, and doesn't immediately put out is holding onto it. *salutes*

..was that rude? I'm not too sure of what's coming out of my fingers right now.

[foxyphoenix]

What I would do on a first date and what sane people would do on a first date are two entirely different things, but whatever:

1) Stay out of comfort zones: don't go to one house or the other, or to one's pub or the other's. Go somewhere where neither of you has home court advantage so that the date will start on even ground.
2) "Dinner and a movie" is entirely overrated. You can't talk in a movie, and the first date should really be about getting to know each other's personalities, not snogging in the back row.
3) For me? A great first date would be something outdoorsy: rock climbing, hiking, speed skating, snowshoeing, chasing reptiles, visiting the zoo (though I suppose that would be home court advantage for me)... something interesting and not cliche.
4) Know your date: I had a guy try to take me to a chocolate factory turned restaurant, and I'm allergic to chocolate (not a first date, he should have known better). Find out her/his interests, dislikes, etc, and do try to conform to them. Later dates can push boundaries of comfort (girly girl hiking, perhaps?)

Meh.

My relationship track record is not great... so your best bet is probably to ignore everything I said.

Also, if she's an idiot... just don't.

[psychoDiablo]

Originally Said by Sytrohs87

You know, there are those of us out here who're guided more by our minds than our dicks.. but you wouldn't know what that's like, would you?

Though I have to say that you're probably getting way more pussy than I am, so gung-ho, desperate-girl fucker! If your wake up one day wondering where your self-respect went, that intelligent chick who engages you mentally, challenges your beliefs, and doesn't immediately put out is holding onto it. *salutes*

..was that rude? I'm not too sure of what's coming out of my fingers right now.

it would be rude i guess if that were me. but since it isn't what do i care what you say about me? that's not me.

I can't stand idiot girls. I like the challenge of intelligent women. Hell, I've turned away girls who put out on the first meeting. I don't want that shit. who knows where they have been....just disgusting. if anything, i play the role where i get mad at them for thinking im going to give it up to them. they haven't even taken me on a date yet! if a girl wants this, she's gonna have to pay for my dinner and take me to a hockey game. lol

[doublea114]

You know, there are those of us out here who're guided more by our minds than our dicks.. but you wouldn't know what that's like, would you?

Though I have to say that you're probably getting way more pussy than I am, so gung-ho, desperate-girl fucker! If your wake up one day wondering where your self-respect went, that intelligent chick who engages you mentally, challenges your beliefs, and doesn't immediately put out is holding onto it. *salutes*

..was that rude? I'm not too sure of what's coming out of my fingers right now.

this is how i function, I joke like crazy, use my brain and not my "fucking" personality.

2) "Dinner and a movie" is entirely overrated. You can't talk in a movie, and the first date should really be about getting to know each other's personalities, not snogging in the back row.

um movies are terrible dates cuz you ignore the other person for like 3 hrs cuz if u talk or do anything else, you get bitched at.

1) Stay out of comfort zones: don't go to one house or the other, or to one's pub or the other's. Go somewhere where neither of you has home court advantage so that the date will start on even ground.

I like that idea. thats a real good point to make. I would think more of a walk or bike ride somewhere and then sit and just be together talking for a lond period of time surrounded by what ever the two enjoy as their surrounding. me, it would be nature probably. parks are good.

[Wheels]

No matter what you do, if you get her back to your place, when she walks in the front door, you have to slam it shut after her, lock it quickly and cackle "WRONG MOVE SUCKER HAHAHA!"

Guaranteed to get you laid.

[Bamcubz]

Tom and I still go out on "dates" even after being married for awhile now.

[Clamps]

Whatever you decide to do always have a few back up plans. There is nothing worse that planning to go out with a guy and for whatever reason things don't work out with the original idea. I hate it when I guy goes.. well what do you want to do.. where do you want to eat.. what movie do you want to see.. If you are suggesting the date you need to have the ideas of where you are going. Atleast for the first date after that who cares.

[EmperorChaos]

THis is what you do... when you meet her, walk up to her and say "Get down on it!" If she agrees, good... if not, run to the nearest girl and scream "Get down on it!" Now, this girl is likely going to scream and possibly hit you with something, but that's okay (If she says yes, good for you!)... all you really wanted to do was make Girl 1 think she had competition.

Originally Said by GoddessDivine

i'm too old for that crap
i would rather sit at home and play video games, or drinking games or just watch a movie with the person i am seeing, which is pretty much what i do right now with Mr. X

Oh shut up.

[sa'alyg]

My first date was a coffee shop that me and the girl agreed upon because it was close to both of us, but she'd never been to it before. Then we went to eat, but she's vegan, so it was basically just me talking to her between bites. And then we went to the park and walked around, talked for about two hours. Then we went to her car and she shared her musical interests with me. It lasted about seven hours and we learned so much about each other. Minus dinner, that's what I would do, if I were you. I still eat too much when we go out. XD

[GoddessDivine]

[quote=Emperor Chaos;297626]THis is what you do... when you meet her, walk up to her and say "Get down on it!" If she agrees, good... if not, run to the nearest girl and scream "Get down on it!" Now, this girl is likely going to scream and possibly hit you with something, but that's okay (If she says yes, good for you!)... all you really wanted to do was make Girl 1 think she had competition.



yeah, dont take this advice.

[psychoDiablo]

that's not a bad idea actually...making the girl think she has competition. jealousy could rule in your favor or utterly backfire in your face.