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Old 01-18-2003   #1
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This one is a question for guys...

There is a guy that I find interesting, i like him, whatever you want to say...anyways say I want to see if he feels the same how would i go about doing so?
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Old 01-18-2003   #2
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go out on a date, as friends... get to know him, but dont take it too fast, or he'll just think your easy.

Take it slow, take it easy, just get to know him... cuz if he ends up not being what you wanted after all, you could still gain a new friend...
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for a second i thought you were fake (the other user with the same avatar) and you were gay. sorry
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cloud nine summed it up pretty good
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problem is she is fast and easy... j/k love ya dawn and plz tell me your talking about sam and not that meat guy.
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let him know how you feel life is to short to spend to much time worrying about what happens
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let him know how you feel life is to short to spend to much time worrying about what happens
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I agree with both cloud nine and karencol. Being friends is the most important part of any relationship, but don't just lay back waiting for him to make the first move, either.
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agree to have sex with him, that will win him over for sure
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just walk up to him and say hi and basicly start a conversation simple things or go on a date with him so you can get to know him a little bit better
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tell him you are interested in getting to know him better and that you would like to go out and do something with him sometime.
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Touch his arm, flirt a lil stuff like that to test the waters first
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be cool, generally act non-psychotic, he'll go for it.
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agree to have sex with him, that will win him over for sure
good god...whatever you do, DON'T do this...it doesn't work...personal experience-you'll end up used and cheated, plus you'll feel like a slut.
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that all depends on what whe wants from this guy...

yet, if she want a real-real pukishly romatic relationship... it's probably not the best aproach.

though it WILL work... forever or only for at brief time, depending on tactics.

technically... IF the guy would just sleep with her and take off... where he worth it in the first place?

i mean... if he was prone to dump her right after sex happened anyways... how does playing hard2get make him a better person?

i have dated several women who wanted action the first time we met... thats also good and all... but nothing compared if you keep it up...

i mean... guys who just want one nighters are only after the bangbang part right... but if thats true... and they just want to have that pleasure... it's crapping thier own goal.

PLEASURE in sex increases progressively the more sex you have with a single individual... as both tune in on the others desires.

if she just push him into bed, with a bad-ass agro, or tease him or puzzle him... do all the igniting and push the right buttons.
he will be a good boy and stay with her out of sheer curiosity and lust.

however: only do it if you care to blow all your energy and keep it up... IT SUCKS if you have the feeling she only did it to keep up with the "cuddle meter"... face it... "relationships" is about the art of exchanging info on the hyper-intimate scale... all the way, as time gives insurance, more and more of the soul is revealed...

sex is NOT as hyper-intimate as it may seem... maybe in the very beginning... but its not "doing it" that counts... its the fantasy that becomes important... fantasy that requires personal info.

that's why it hurts so bad if it fucks up... all of a sudden, you have no insurance to your data... quite efficiently proved by the amount of "look at my ex, naked"-pictures on the net.

all relationships are dependant on the sex involved...

as for tactics... here is a little list:

...archetypes of seducers...

1. The Siren : A man is often secretly oppressed by the role he has to play — by always having to be responsible, in control and rational. The Siren is the ultimate male fantasy figure because she offers a total release from the limitations of his life. In her presence, which is always heightened and sexually charged, the male feels transported to a world of pure pleasure. She is dangerous, and in pursuing her energetically the man can lose control over himself, something he yearns to do. The Siren is a mirage; she lures men by cultivating a particular appearance and manner. In a world where women are often too timid to project such an image, learn to take control of the male libido by embodying his fantasy.

2. The Rake : A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy-figure — when he desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her. He may be disloyal, dishonest and amoral, but that only adds to his appeal. Unlike the normal, cautious male, the Rake is delightfully unrestrained, a slave to his love of women. There is the added lure of his reputation: so many women have succumbed to him, there has to be a reason. Words are a woman's weakness, and the Rake is a master of seductive language. Stir a woman's repressed longings by adapting the Rake's mix of danger and pleasure.

3. The Ideal Lover : Most people have dreams in their youth that get shattered or worn down with age. They find themselves disappointed by people, events, reality, which cannot match their youthful ideals. Ideal Lovers thrive on people's broken dreams, which become lifelong fantasies. You long for romance? Adventure? Lofty spiritual communion? The Ideal Lover reflects your fantasy. He or she is an artist in creating the illusion you require, idealizing your portrait. In a world of disenchantment and baseness, there is limitless seductive power in following the path of the Ideal Lover.

4. The Dandy : Most of us feel trapped within the limited roles that the world expects us to play. We are instantly attracted to those who are more fluid, more ambiguous, than we are — those who create their own persona. Dandies excite us because they cannot be categorized, and hint at a freedom we want for ourselves. They play with masculinity and femininity; they create their own physical image, which is always startling; they are mysterious and elusive. They also appeal to the narcissism of each sex: to a woman they are psychologically female, to a man they are male. Dandies fascinate and seduce in large numbers. Use the power of the Dandy to create an ambiguous, alluring presence that stirs repressed desires.

5. The Natural : Childhood is the golden paradise we are always consciously or unconsciously trying to re-create. The Natural embodies the longed-for qualities of childhood — spontaneity, sincerity, unpretentiousness. In the presence of Naturals, we feel at ease, caught up in their playful spirit, transported back to that golden age. Naturals also make a virtue out of weakness, eliciting our sympathy for their trials, making us want to protect them and help them. As with a child, much of this is natural, but some of it is exaggerated, a conscious seductive maneuver. Adopt the pose of the Natural to neutralize people's natural defensiveness and infect them with helpless delight.

6. The Coquette : The ability to delay satisfaction is the ultimate art of seduction — while waiting, the victim is held in thrall. Coquettes are the grand masters of this game, orchestrating a back-and-forth movement between hope and frustration. They bait with the promise of reward — the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power — which, however, proves elusive; yet this only makes their targets pursue them the more. Coquettes seem totally self-sufficient: they do not need you, they seem to say, and their narcissism proves devilishly attractive. You want to conquer them but they hold the cards. The strategy of the Coquette is never to offer total satisfaction. Imitate the alternating heat and coolness of the Coquette and you will keep the seduced at your heels.

7. The Charmer : Charm is seduction without sex. Charmers are consummate manipulators, masking their cleverness by creating a mood of pleasure and comfort. Their method is simple: they deflect attention from themselves and focus it on their target. They understand your spirit, feel your pain, adapt to your moods. In the presence of a Charmer you feel better about yourself. Charmers do not argue or fight, complain or pester — what could be more seductive? By drawing you in with their indulgence they make you dependent on them, and their power grows. Learn to cast the Charmer's spell by aiming at people's primary weaknesses: vanity and self-esteem.

8. The Charismatic : Charisma is a presence that excites us. It comes from an inner quality — self-confidence, sexual energy, sense of purpose, contentment — that most people lack and want. This quality radiates outward, permeating the gestures of Charismatics, making them seem extraordinary and superior, and making us imagine there is more to them than meets the eye: they are gods, saints, stars. Charismatics can learn to heighten their charisma with a piercing gaze, fiery oratory, an air of mystery. They can seduce on a grand scale. Learn to create the charismatic illusion by radiating intensity while remaining detached.

9. The Star : Daily life is harsh, and most of us constantly seek escape from it in fantasies and dreams. Stars feed on this weakness; standing out from others through a distinctive and appealing style, they make us want to watch them. At the same time, they are vague and ethereal, keeping their distance, and letting us imagine more than is there. Their dreamlike quality works on our unconscious; we are not even aware how much we imitate them. Learn to become an object of fascination by projecting the glittering but elusive presence of the Star.

10. The Anti-Seducer : Seducers draw you in by the focused, individualized attention they pay to you. Anti-Seducers are the opposite: insecure, self-absorbed, and unable to grasp the psychology of another person, they literally repel. Anti-Seducers have no self-awareness, and never realize when they are pestering, imposing, talking too much. They lack the subtlety to create the promise of pleasure that seduction requires. Root out anti-seductive qualities in yourself, and recognize them in others — there is no pleasure or profit in dealing with the Anti-Seducer.

Excerpted from The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene, published by Viking Books, 2001.

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damn that post turned long...

hope i didn't get too cryptic and that it is of some use...
anyways... i gave this shit alot of thought in my sparetime...
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no use people, for some reason all the texas girls are boycotting as, somehow I got them all to hate me.
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no use people, for some reason all the texas girls are boycotting as, somehow I got them all to hate me.

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