missing people

[hawiianice]

What do you do when you miss someone so much that it hurts?
Any tips for me?

[Summer Gurl]

Well... I did as much as i could to keep my self busy but every time i sat down, my thoughts always went back to "that guy". I say just keep your self busy and stuff things.

[Bubble Girl]

Ashley that doesnt help.

Try finding a way of contacting the person you miss. Or writing them a letter, even if you have no intention of sending it. Not thinking about them doesn't help. It just makes the pain harder to deal with when it comes back and hits you in the face every now and again.

When I moved, I had to leave my best friend behind to deal with all sorts of things. We are still in contact after a year an a half and sure I miss her, but it doesn't hurt anymore. That is because we stayed in touch all the way through the rough times. It used to make me feel a lot better by writing her email when she was offline, even if she didn't get a chance to reply.

If for some reason you can't stay in contact with them, writing letters helps, even, like I said, if you don't send them.

[Summer Gurl]

maybe not helped for you... but she said any tips... that was my 2 cents... thank you katy...

[Bubble Girl]

Your welcome Ashley.

[Summer Gurl]

By the way ... may i ask who you are missing?

[hawiianice]

My bestfriend/boyfriend.

Thanks for your 2 cents. :biggrin:

[Summer Gurl]

hehe no problem eheh ... oh and sorry ..

[hawiianice]

Sorry for what?

[Guttermouth]

I don't know why Ashley's response caught such criticism, I suggest the same. If you miss someone, you can sit at home & compose an angsty poem about it & cry. Or you can just do something else. Stop thinking about it and it won't be a problem. If I get wrapped up in something, I'll forget to eat for an entire day. Mind over matter.

P.S. Vote Guttermouth for nicest female AS member :tongue:

[Mr Stabby]

well though katy will go against me here lol.....I have to agree with zion on this one (as much as that pains me to do)...

Im 200+ miles away from my girlfriend, and even though im back with her near enough every weekend (and the whole on next week yay!) it does hurt when I have to face reality and come home and leave her behind....

I find that keeping myself busy does help, although it doesnt always, so I'd agree also with what katy says, just keep in contact with that person...thankfully my girlfriend has msn and I talk to her alot on there, and I also call and text her alot to when neither of us are near a computer, it helps ease the pain slightly...

really its a bit of both pieces of advice...

P.S. Don't vote Guttermouth for nicest female AS memeber, vote Rob for nicest female AS member.....:laugh:

[Stu]

I reckon talking to a friend really helps. Just having someone know that you're having a hard time means that you don't have to suffer the loneliness alone. Once you talk to someone, the feelings will be out there, and you might feel a bit better.

[OftenAmazed]

There are two quotes that come to mind:

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder."

and

"Out of sight...out of mind."

They are both horribly cliché, but they make perfect sense.

Missing someone is a good thing. It means you really like them, as opposed to just being used to them.

I agree with writing as a means to release the emotions that missing someone can cause, but I don't think the writing should be all angst. Use the writing as a way to reminisce about all the things you miss about the person. Embrace the good things that you may have taken for granted while the person was with you.

Of course there will be pain, but your memory is a powerful tool. Don't waste it on could have or should have been. Use it to enjoy what was, and what may be again.

[Summer Gurl]

I don't know why Ashley's response caught such criticism, I suggest the same. If you miss someone, you can sit at home & compose an angsty poem about it & cry. Or you can just do something else. Stop thinking about it and it won't be a problem. If I get wrapped up in something, I'll forget to eat for an entire day. Mind over matter.

P.S. Vote Guttermouth for nicest female AS member :tongue: why thank you chicka! i am glad i am not the only one to do what i did.

well though katy will go against me here lol.....I have to agree with zion on this one (as much as that pains me to do)...


I find that keeping myself busy does help, although it doesnt always, so I'd agree also with what katy says, just keep in contact with that person...thankfully my girlfriend has msn and I talk to her alot on there, and I also call and text her alot to when neither of us are near a computer, it helps ease the pain slightly...

haha... :laugh:

[Mr Stabby]

what? whats funny zion?

[RubberDucky55]

i agree with katy. you have to face that "missing" feeling at some point, keeping yourself busy won't do much to help you with that. it will let you forget about it for a certain time, but then you'll always come back to it.

just do what you do to feel sad for the person being away. cry if you must. i liked the letter idea, just get your emotions on to paper and feel like you're actually talking to him. it might help sort out your feelings or whatever.

hope you feel better!

[Summer Gurl]

what? whats funny zion? it was just funny that you agreed with me. Just do what you can to pass the time. your boy friend will be back.

[Mr Stabby]

it was just funny that you agreed with me.
yea it was a real riot...make no mistake, its a odd occurance...trust me, aint gonna be no agreeing with you in the future if I can help it...